I will give you 6 of the most pertinent don’ts of online dating.

1- Make sure that your first email is not a book long.

            It is a major turn off to talk and talk. Test the waters and write a woman a long email and see if you get a response. She probably will just move on without even considering after this. This is because men who talk a lot tend to be needy. Women have a lot to say so there really isn’t room for two big talkers.

Instead: Make your emails short, witty, personable and sweet. Leave room for her to respond by asking open ended questions.

2- Leave out sexual innuendos

            Women think that all men think about is sex. It is true, but you don’t have to exploit it. You will seem like a gentleman if you leave sex talk out. Don’t take the chance of offending someone and getting a bad rep on your service.

Instead: Wait for her to initiate sex talk. Believe it or not she will bring it up at some point. Even when she does do not become aggressive. Lay back and let things unfold.

3- Be Honest

            So many people lie on their profiles. They lie about anything from their occupation, to their marital status, to their hobbies. Eventually it will be caught. If a woman finds out that you are lying your are done. The worse thing you can do is lie at the beginning of your communications.

Instead: If there is something that you don’t like about your career or how much money you make, concentrate on things that are good about you.

4- Less is more

            Don’t send too many emails or instant messages. If you are too attentive you may seem needy.

One way to appear needy is by sending a woman three or four e-mail or IM messages a day. If you are conversing back and forth and she is just as into it, say what you feel.

Instead: Don’t email her more than say 3 times a day. IM messages should be kept to a minimum as well. Show some restraint. It will leaving her guessing.

5- Don’t have too Many Women

It is so easy to get caught up in the fact that you have so many women to choose from. If you really want this to work you need to find some focus. Your experience with online dating will be much better. If there are too many emails you will forget what you said to whom.

Instead: Pursue only the ones you are most interested in. 

6- Don't press the date

Let the woman choose the initial date. If it’s too soon chances are she will feel like you are too pushy. She will be more attracted to you if you don’t ask her out. Reverse psychology.

It’s best if you play it safe.