Confidence is something that a lot of us struggle with even in online dating. We all have different degrees of confidence. It is easy for our feathers to get ruffled when we are not confident and secure.

            Confidence plays a big role in every part of our lives. In relationships it is huge. Some times I am completely sure about being great in my relationships and other times I don’t know whether I’ve done anything right. We all want different things in our relationships, but there are some common wishes such as the happiness of love, having someone to come home to, the first kiss and the kisses to follow. The downs can be trying though. Finding out that you’ve been cheated on, being told that you are not loved anymore, or finding out that you tried and tried but you just don’t think that this is the right person for you.

            Okay so how many times have you seen this or actually gone through this yourself? You found this man that you just adore. He is sexy, caring, compassionate, and intelligent. All you can think about all day is getting home to him. You leave the house in the morning feeling like you are on cloud nine and that no matter what happens in your day, you have him to  make it all better. Then, sadly, he just up and leaves you. He doesn’t have an explanation. He has just decided that this is not the best thing for him. You tell him that you will do anything to work it out. You tell him that you can except what ever it is. You tell him that if you did something wrong in the relationship that you will fix it. And no matter how much you beg him to come back to the love that you thought you had he refuses. You are sitting in the middle of your floor crying and weeping because you lost what you thought would be the love of your life. You either start to do crazy things like sleeping with someone to fill the void or you over book yourself at work so that you do  not have to face the pain.

            I personally felt like if I would just give it some time, if would heal itself. I didn’t even have it in me to do clubs or bars. After being left I didn’t have an ounce of confidence let and even if I did, the thought of being with someone else just killed me. After a while I started to get lonely and decided that it was time that started to try dating again. 

            My friend mentioned that she had met the greatest guy ever through online dating. I had always contemplated it, but never had the guts to do it. When I found out how easy it was to sit in the comfort of my home with a cup of coffee and create profile telling everyone how great I was, and finding a picture that showed the best of me… I was in . Interestingly enough it was a confident booster for me. I was sitting at home sending cute little messages to men and getting 10-15 hit’s a day on my profile. Titles like “hey sexy,”  or “you are beautiful” could never get old.

            The traditional dating scene can be daunting. Having to meet someone face to face in a loud club who is drunk can be hard. Why not stay at home and flirt with 10 different guys over cyberspace until you narrow it down to the best contender. Online dating is where it’s at.